Each One of Us Has Drama in Our Dust!

 

I think it is safe to say that not one adult will leave this earth without experiencing some relationship drama in their life. We are all imperfect humans who are born with a tendency to be self-seeking. You can even recognize this in people who seem to be the most giving or seem to have hearts of servitude.

I can think of certain individuals in my own sphere, for example, who for all observational purposes appear to be helpful, giving, and kind to strangers on a regular basis. Yet if you follow these people around for a couple of days, weeks, months, or even years, you may find that their loved ones get very little if any positive attention.

Now, one could say that the “neglected” people in the life of such a person might be hard to love. Or perhaps like with someone I know, they just keep giving to try to "earn" love (that should not have to be earned but should be naturally given). The one then receiving all the love, nurturing, encouragement, etc. has more to give to others, but does not give back to the one who loves them best.

Sadly, relational patterns such as this can repeat again in other relationships until one dies, and then the person is never able to fully realize a healthy mutually reciprocal relationship in their lifetime. People can even die of a broken heart because they are too embarrassed to leave a toxic relationship when they have repeated the pattern multiple times. God cautions us to protect our hearts… Proverbs 4:23, NIV states “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

I do believe that it is true that we all have drama in our dust, but some of us try so hard not to repeat some patterns that we repeat others that may be even more detrimental to our well-being. We should remember, however, that God gave his only son to die so that we should not have to continue to carry the burden of old drama. God wants us to forgive ourselves just as much as he forgives us.

We should leave it in the dust where it belongs.